Youve been chosen as the best man or the maid of honor for the wedding. Youll be right beside your best friend as they begin the rest of their life. Theyll confide in you, theyll turn to you for support, and theyll share their happiness with you. Youll be the foundation they need throughout the process, never shaking and never wavering. Dealing with the in laws, helping book the vendors, and making the planning as painless as possible. Youll get to hold the ring or retrieve her bouquet and you wouldnt want it any other way. Just one problem, you have to make a toast.
In a national poll, Americans cited public speaking as their number one fear. Number two? Death. Standing in front of a room of people with that microphone in your hand is enough to make some people feel faint. But with a few tips, tricks, and words of advice youll be able to deliver a speech thats heartfelt and true. Everyone has a different personality, and itd be silly to try and give a speech that doesnt reflect who you are. If youre quiet and shy, keep it short and sweet. If youre a natural performer dont be afraid to ham it up- as long as its tasteful. It can be funny or sweet but remember, there are a few guidelines to mind, and if you put the time and thought into your speech you will have the room in the palm of your hand.
Remember to start by introducing yourself, you may not be as well known as you think. A quick greeting will loosen you up and will make the speech feel much more comfortable in front of the crowd. Having something prepared will be the best decision you ever make. Countless times Ive seen people try to use improvisation in their speech, and while its noble to try and speak straight from the heart, there is a certain awkwardness that is inevitable. A few notecards will suffice, because you also want to avoid reading straight from a script. A happy medium should be discovered, and it is the best way to deliver the speech. Maintaining eye contact with the room is important and notecards will help you to do so.
The subject material really depends on your relationship with the bride and the groom. Dont get lost in your relationship with with the bride or the groom. The day is about both of them. Toasts are to the couple and it should incorporate them both. Tell your stories, but be sure to bring it back home. If youre the wild one of the bunch, theyll probably expect some fun stories, silly antics, and good punchlines. If youre the responsible one in the group, itd be best served to talk about the couple and how perfect they are for each other. Remember to act comfortable, rehearse before hand, and just be yourself. The rest will fall into place.
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